Since the beginning of time it has been a struggle to make the right choices. I think it is great that God gives us free will, allowing us to make our own decisions, but it sure does make life difficult at times.
As we grow up we learn to make choices every day. Somewhere along the way we learn we can choose to have things go in our favor or allow someone else to benefit from our choices. Hopefully along the way we are taught to have some integrity in the choices we make.
As adults we are bombarded with choices! From choosing between jobs to where we will live to the big one, whom should I choose to marry? I have always thought that when you get married you live happily ever after!!! I had not studied my bible very well. Reading from Genesis 3:16 I learned that the woman will want to control her husband, and the husband will rule over her. So obviously, there is going to be conflict! The woman is going to want to control her husband; the husband will want to Lord over his wife. This is even more challenging as God has placed Man in place as the head of the family, making it even more difficult to make choices that are in the best interest of the family instead of “Lording” over the family and making choices that are in his best interest. How do we make the right choices with all that going on?
In Ephesians 5:22-23 God thought it important enough to discuss hierarchy again. Both husband and wife will submit to each other as to the Lord. “You wives will submit to your husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of his body, the church, he gave his life to be her Savior. “
While that explains the hierarchy, it does not seem to make it easier. In first Corinthians 7:28 Paul says “If you marry, there will be trouble.” Paul is trying to let us know that is ok to get married but there will be (extra) trouble.
So, while the hierarchy is set in place by God is good, it is often very difficult because of the curse in Genesis. Both the husband and the wife have to do their part and choose to be who they are in Christ in the position God has chosen to place them. Man, as the head of the family must choose to lead sacrificially. The woman, as the helpmate, must choose to follow and serve sacrificially. Both must be open to being influenced by the other and both must fulfill their role in a sacrificial manner. It is a daily, hourly and sometime second by second choice. While these choices are often difficult, they are not impossible. God has given each of us the word of Christ as guidance, and the spirit of Christ to lead us in making Godly choices. It is all about choices; what will you choose today?