A couple of weeks ago we started this series with an intro to Fighting the Good Fight and discussed a Soft Startup. Last week we discussed Repair Attempts. This week we want to focus on compromise. Work to Compromise Since 69% of arguments will never be completely resolved, compromise is often the best we can […]
After three plus decades of marriage research John Gottman, from the University of Washington, was able to identify a number of strategies that help when couples are already engaged in a fight. One of those strategies involves repair attempts.
Did you know that 69% of all of the things you and your spouse fight about are perpetual problems. By that I mean they are problems that will most likely resurface throughout your marriage.
A few years back, Patty and I were reading a marriage book. The author spent a lot of time focused on behavior. At one point while reading the book I was supposed to stop and ask Patty what I could do to make her feel romanced. She shared a couple of things that were helpful. […]
Can you relate at all with the following scenario? A husband says to himself early in the marriage, “I’ll pray with her and we can be in a Bible study together with other couples.” As the months pass, he experiences something that de-energizes him: Immediately after one of their regular prayer times together, his wife […]
Thursday Patty and I were headed west, separately. She was heading west to visit her dad, a monthly visit now that he has recently moved; and I was headed west to my Mom’s house to mow the desert (no rain for weeks). Somehow we ended up west bound on Interstate 20 in the same location. […]