Once you understand the purpose and power behind marriage, it is valuable to understand the differences between how men and women communicate. After 38 years of marriage, I am still amazed at how many words Patty uses on an average day. It is estimated that the average woman uses 15,000 words in a day. In contrast, a man is lucky if he uses 5,000. Women communicate using both the factual side of the brain as well as the emotional side. However, men tend to communicate to provide just the facts. (I am not saying that men communicate with only half a brain). A woman often talks to determine how they feel. But when men get emotional, they have a tendency to not talk at all until those emotions are under control.
In the above clip, the couple is having the same conversation. She talks to other women and he talks to other men and everyone is happy and fulfilled. In fact, to onlookers, it is quite humorous and relatable.
But what if they could see each other and hear each other? Would she feel undervalued, misunderstood, and disconnected by the casual description of the experience she held so dear? Would he be overwhelmed by her sorting through every detail? Looking at the scene this way, it is still painfully relatable, but way less funny.
But what if there was a great way to better understand how men and women communicate and relate? What if there was a fun weekend you could attend in the Fall Of 2023 that would lead to better understanding, and in that understanding, help each of you grow closer and more intimate with one another? Stay tuned to our future events page for more information for our next session of Love and Respect.
Before you plan to attend Love and Respect in the Fall, might we recommend that you take some time this Spring and attend Real Marriage? This two-part workshop takes place on a Friday evening and resumes on Saturday. It lays the foundation for all of our workshops and classes. In this workshop, you will learn the purpose of marriage, the power for marriage, and the practice of marriage. While Love and Respect provides a wide variety of insight and learning into how men and women relate, Real Marriage is the framework that makes this insight possible.
We hope to see you there. To check out when our next offering of Love and Respect is, click here.
Written by Michael Curtis and edited by Stacy Baron
Three Strand Ministry is the Marriage Ministry of Colonial Hills Baptist Church
