Control the Desire to Correct Him

The Bible is full of scriptures that encourage us to correct each other when we fall into the traps of sin, to challenge each other to grow in grace and knowledge, and to sharpen each other in our walk with Christ.  However, a wise woman seeking to respect her husband considers when, where, and how correction needs to take place.  

When – In the event your husband makes a mistake or speaks in error consider if correcting him in front of others is wise, or if it is needed at all.  For instance, when he says it takes four and a half hours to fly from Dallas to Portland is it really necessary to interrupt and say it takes four hours and forty-five minutes?  I often hear women correct their husbands on every little thing; many of which have no consequence at all.  If you are constantly correcting him, next time consider if it is really necessary.  

Where – When correction is called for, where should the correction take place?  Does it need to be in front of his peers and friends?  Bringing the issue up later in private is almost always a better option.   Marriage is a hotbed for growth and there will be times when he needs to be challenged on his behavior or mindset.  A wise woman chooses where that correction takes place.

How – Finally, how does a wise woman approach correction?  With humility.  Thinking you know what needs to be corrected and that you have all the answers is rooted in pride.  Most likely the discussion can wait until your spouse is in the right frame of mind to hear correction.  Gentle correction framed as a question is often a great approach.  For instance, I was telling a friend of mine how to get to the local landfill.  As I provided directions Patty, my wife, overheard my instructions and thought there was a faster way.  Instead of saying there was a better way she simply asked “Is that the shortest way? I thought Highway 31 was faster.”  I then pointed out that the other route had road construction and was closed at times throughout the day.  

Next time you feel the need to correct your husband in the presence of others consider;  is correction needed;  where should the corrections take place and; how should the correction be approached.