One of the first things to go when problems arise is friendship. However, friendship is one of the core aspects of a healthy couple’s life. How do we maintain friendship in the midst of crazy schedules and insane demands of our time.
Over the last week we have been exploring how to fight better. We have discussed the soft start-up, repair attempts, compromise, influence and soothing. This week we will wrap up this series by considering the overall goal of your fight. When a fight kicks off there is a gap between the time something happens to anger you […]
As we have discussed before, fighting often leads to flooding. As emotions increase we enter the “fight, flight or freeze” response. Blood flows from our brain to our extremities, blood pressure increases, heart rate increases and our ability to reason decreases. If not dealt with, flooding can result in lashing out in anger or engaging in defensiveness and stonewalling.
Over the last few days we have been exploring how to fight better. We discussed the soft start-up, repair attempts and compromise. Today, let’s take a look at how we allow our spouse to influence us. Recently I was sharing with some friends that when I was much younger I got a little depressed about […]
This week we started this series with an intro to Fighting the Good Fight and discussed a Soft Startup. We followed up with Repair Attempts. Now we want to focus on compromise. Work to Compromise Since 69% of arguments will never be completely resolved, compromise is often the best we can expect from some of […]
The funny thing is I knew I was in trouble as the words left my mouth. Mentally I was reaching out trying to capture the offending question and return it to the depths from which it came. No luck.