Many of our ministries, and some of our work, has come to a grinding halt. We are living in an age where we have been thrown into telework, are living on less work hours in a workweek, or have been laid off all-together. In addition, the children are home, the daily structures that have helped […]
Money Magazine reports that 70% of couple fight about money. This means that money is the number one source of tension in a marriage ahead of fighting over how to raise children and how often to have sex. Of course, money is not the real issue. Often these fights are more about who makes the […]
One of the first things to go when problems arise is friendship. However, friendship is one of the core aspects of a healthy couple’s life. How do we maintain friendship in the midst of crazy schedules and insane demands of our time.
Over the last week we have been exploring how to fight better. We have discussed the soft start-up, repair attempts, compromise, influence and soothing. This week we will wrap up this series by considering the overall goal of your fight. When a fight kicks off there is a gap between the time something happens to anger you […]
As we have discussed before, fighting often leads to flooding. As emotions increase we enter the “fight, flight or freeze” response. Blood flows from our brain to our extremities, blood pressure increases, heart rate increases and our ability to reason decreases. If not dealt with, flooding can result in lashing out in anger or engaging in defensiveness and stonewalling.
Over the last few days we have been exploring how to fight better. We discussed the soft start-up, repair attempts and compromise. Today, let’s take a look at how we allow our spouse to influence us. Recently I was sharing with some friends that when I was much younger I got a little depressed about […]