Sites We Recommend
Fierce Marriage – Ryan and Selena Frederick started Fierce Marriage to help them process through marriage’s trials as well as celebrate its joys. They are in our 16th year of marriage and they have learned a ton about what works and what doesn’t. They hope that as they share openly it will help you grow and cultivate a truly Christ-centered marriage.
In This Together-Dr. Josh and Christi Straub want to enjoy their marriage and be the best adults they can be for their kids. In This Together is a podcast dedicated to topics helping you live, love, and lead well—as a spouse, a parent, and a human being.
The Naked Marriage – A podcast dedicated to undressing the truth about sex, intimacy and lifelong love. The concerns and questions most couples have in marriage often go unspoken, until now. Hosts Dave and Ashley Willis bring wisdom, vulnerability, and humor to even the toughest marriage topics.
Accessing the Power for Marriage
The answer is found a few scriptures back, in Ephesians 5:18 where we are instructed to be “filled with the spirit.” The subsequent scriptures provide guidance concerning how you will act towards your spouse, children, servants and masters, but it is being “filled with the spirit” that provides the resources you need for these relationships. The spirit is the source of power for a Christian marriage. So, what does it mean to be filled with the spirit?
John McArthur in his commentary on Ephesians says this: “To be filled with the Spirit is to live in the consciousness of the personal presence of the Lord Jesus Christ, as if we were standing next to Him, and to let His mind dominate our life. It is to fill ourselves with God’s Word so that His thoughts will be our thoughts, His standards are our standards, His work our work, and His will our will. As we yield to the truth of Christ, the Holy Spirit will lead us to say, do, and be what God wants us to say, do, and be. “We all, with unveiled face beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as from the Lord, the Spirit” (2 Cor. 3:18). Christ consciousness leads to Christ-likeness.” 1
In fact, we do not have to “act as if we are standing next to Him.” The reality is that the Spirit of God lives within us, in union with us. He has given us His mind, and it is when we think with the mind of Christ, and submit to the will of Christ, that we can express the life of Christ to our spouse. Our thinking influences our emotions, our emotions influence our actions. Marital problems give us the opportunity to explore the source we are living from like no other relationship. When Patty and I are arguing, I have the opportunity to ask myself “am I expressing the desires of the Spirit, or am I expressing the desires of the flesh (what I am demanding)?” Sometimes I am living from the Spirit and what I am advocating is needed. More often, I am living from the flesh; what I am advocating is what I want or feel I need. The good news is, now that I know I need to check the battery, I can redirect my thinking to where God calls me faster than I used to. During all of the trials we face in life, especially the trials we face in marriage, we need to be checking the source of our thinking and actions.
1 MacArthur, John. The MacArthur New Testament Commentary Set of 30 volumes (Macarthur New Testament Commentary Serie) (Kindle Locations 170024-170029). Moody Publishers. Kindle Edition.